Tuesday, September 11, 2018

SHE


She was happy
She was loved
She had comfort, that
She deserved

She had a life
She adored
She was respected, but
She was bored

She had a passion
She became unsure
She pursued it, and
She ran to the shore

She stood on the edge

She took the plunge

She fell on the rocks, and

She was she, no more.





Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Giveaway for Beyond Boundaries Started Today - enter to get a free ebook copy

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Beyond Boundaries by Bela Kaul

Beyond Boundaries

by Bela Kaul

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Saturday, July 14, 2018

Giveaway of Beyond Boundaries

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by Bela Kaul

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Sunday, June 17, 2018

LOVE Beyond Boundaries


Love is limitless, it crosses bounds, spreads its wings across landscapes, and soars to encompass all. 

Love adds beauty by moving, testing and crossing the lines that are defined. 

Love's bucket is never full, as it flows like a river over the rim, across borders, into new territories. 

Love gathers more beauty along the journey and carries them in its folds. 

Love is beauty that is boundless.


Travel with LOVE Beyond Boundaries and experience its beauty with Taara and Janki’s journey.

Read...enjoy...review!



Friday, June 8, 2018

Beyond Boundaries Book Reading and Signing Highlights

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The Beyond Boundaries Book Reading and Signing was a fun event at Skypony Gallery in Plano, Texas. Chef Tara of Tara's Tasty Table delighted us with her delicious savories. Check out the highlights of the event in the link http://www.skyponygallery.com/our-events.html.

Order your copy of Beyond Boundaries from Amazon today at https://www.amazon.com/Bela-Kaul/e/B0785D36HJ. Journey with two women, Taara and Janki, who are separated by time and place, but bound by blood. Travel with them as they traverse their respective landscapes littered with perils in search for a sense of belonging and prevail beyond all bounds.

Be sure to leave a review on Amazon and Goodreads after you've read the book.

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Monday, April 30, 2018

Buddhism and Modern Psychology - An Essay


Does Modern science lend support to Buddhist ideas about the human mind and to the logic behind Buddhist meditation practice?

Based on Modern science’s understanding, Natural Selection Design’s purpose for the continuation of the species does not care about happiness. Its basis is to create desire, greed, and agitation to be motivated to move forward. As a result of changes in the environment at a faster pace than the evolution of Natural Selection Design for the human species, more and more humans are looking for a scientific understanding as well as seeking a way to overcome our predicament.

Buddhism, a non-theistic religion, recognizes the foundation of Natural Selection Design and challenges it by using meditation, as a tool to seek happiness.  With its mindful meditation technique, Buddhism teaching helps train the mind to be calm and content in order to eliminate agitation and desire, which is the basis of the Natural Selection Design.

Buddhist teaching recognize suffering exists and clinging as the cause of suffering as its first two noble truths.  Scientists have identified a part of the brain as the Default Mode Network, which they have concluded is designed to take advantage of free time.  Through study of brain scans, there is evidence that when one starts to meditate, the Default Mode Network part of the brain becomes active by filling it with thoughts.  However, with continued meditation which works to quieten the mind, Default Mode Network eventually surrenders and becomes quiet. This results in detachment from thoughts and feelings and elimination of desire as the path to end suffering, a logic that has evidentiary support in modern psychology.

Another claim that Buddhist teaching make is the concept of the Not-Self. This doctrine rejects the existence of soul or in essence, the Self.  In fact, it claims the existence of five aggregates which make up who we are. It further claims that these five aggregates are permanent, and we cling to them which is the cause of our suffering. Using mindful meditation we can recognize the five aggregates as fluid and impermanent and learn to detach from them in order to be liberated. Buddhists claim that our mind’s eye is more than its limited vision that Natural Selection Design supplies, and it allows a meditator to see their thoughts without the thinker. The Self is then denied as an ultimate sense and only exists as an abstract, relative sense.

In modern psychology, based on the split-brain experiments specifically by Michael Gazzaniga, there was conclusive evidence that questioned the existence of consciousness and defined the existence of a sub-conscious. In these experiments, each hemisphere reacted separately when the connection between them was severed, one hemisphere buying into fabrication and creativity, while the other honing into the detail and literal truth.  These findings are in line with Buddhist teaching of the question of non-self.

The Buddhist claim that we are an illusion has evidence in modern evolutionary psychology in the Modular View of the Mind. The seven sub-selves identified by Douglas Kenrick in his book, “The Rational Animal” and further defined by Leda Cosmides, endorse the Buddhist claim of no one conscious, and that a specific module is triggered in our mind based on the environment. This view goes further to explain that the modules in our mind choose us by what we express based on a complex algorithm designed by Natural Selection. Furthermore, the psychologists have determined that the modules gain power with victory.  This is evident in the case of addiction, which is in line with the understanding of the Natural Selection Design to create motivation. As a result, mindful meditation is prescribed by psychologists to help one become aware of which module(s) is/are triggered and not allow them to become more aggressive. The practice quietens the Default Mode Network while observing the feelings without judgment. This allows us to let go of the sub-selves without clinging to any one of them, resulting in positive behavior as perceived by the environment.
Some may argue that Natural Selection is a constant drive towards achieving perfection, internal and external. However, while some may define perfection as gaining competitive advantage in furthering our species to new heights, others seek perfection in striving to eliminate suffering. While Modern psychology, through brain scans and experiments, has been able to describe and offer the truth about an unhappy mind, Buddhist teaching and tools have gone one step further by showing the way to find that happiness.

Both Buddhist teaching and scientific evidence lend themselves to accept that Natural Selection Design hasn’t kept up with the changes in the environment and that human species seek a deeper understanding of the mind.  Meditation, a practice ingrained in Buddhism since its inception as the means to a calm, content, and peaceful mind as a path to happiness has become the prescription of choice by modern psychologists for modern day psychological challenges of today’s human species.

Sunday, February 18, 2018

Beyond Boundaries now in Paperback also

Dear Readers,

My debut novel, Beyond Boundaries is available for purchase in Amazon in both, paperback and downloadable Kindle e-reader versions.

Whether you like the rustle of a crisp leaf of paper as you turn the pages or the glow of a back-light as words dribble from a tablet, this book will engage you, take you into times and places beyond your boundaries. You will travel with Taara and Janki across oceans, lakes, mountains, valleys and through their journey will cross physical and metaphorical borders.

Order your book today and kick back, relax, cuddle up on a couch with a warm cup of green tea or a glass of red and a copy of Beyond Boundaries and enjoy the read!

Click here to order your copy of either the paperback or e-reader (kindle or kindle-app)








Saturday, January 20, 2018

WO! Stand up! Fight back!

Woman is the “Wo” of Man
His power and strength
Ready to give him a hand
like a pillar she stands

Woman appears to live in negative space
Her presence subliminal
Her place profound
Unassuming, unseen but always around

Woman embodies all men
Carries them in her womb
She nurtures their tender soul
With unconditional love
 
Woman suffers in silence
Her tears dry
She keeps her family together
Nestles, fights, and ready to die

She sacrifices not for brevity
Her ego does not rule her
She fights to stand in equality
not to outwit or maneuver

Feminism is not about superiority
It is to stand for deserved rights
to fight for our dignity
We will not be objectified

So listen up Man
WOman today may reside in negative space
But her presence makes the man’s story complete
We are all pieces of a puzzle that fit together in a grand design
Each gender is lost without the other
We are all pillars of the same species
To support one another
To stand tall side by side
To uphold humanity

Woman is not a man
And man is not a woman
They are different for a reason
To help each other’s stance.
When women’s rights are under attack,
What do we do?
Stand up and fight back!




Sunday, December 17, 2017

Respect

Showers of admiration
How great you are
You are put on a pedestal
That is not respect

Slaps on back
Praises from the crowd
You find yourself in the center
That is not respect

An audience lends their ears
To stories of your feats
You become the sole speaker
Attention is not respect

Love of family and friends
Who do all to keep you happy
You are the center of their universe
Love is not respect

Praise, admiration, attention
And even love, are not respect
These are given, taken
for a motive or it is so.

Respect is unique
it can only be Earned
the hardest to receive

and fastest to burn.

Sunday, December 3, 2017

BEYOND BOUNDARIES

Excited to share my debut novel, Beyond Boundaries is available on amazon kindle for pre-order with a release date of January 1st, 2018!
Beyond Boundaries is a story close to my heart inspired by women in my family. It takes us into the journey of two women separated by time and place, but bound by blood, as they cross borders and boundaries in search of their sense of belonging.




Saturday, November 4, 2017

Emptiness Paradox


The world today seems to have exploded with biases. But, then again, it probably always was that way, just not advertised as much. With the advent of mass media, alternate ways of decimating viewpoints, the information overload is twirling people’s mind, questioning their own biases. 

All the arguments discussed in public via Facebook or on CNN panel, each side push their agenda, each side make sense to many after a while and then everything becomes noise. Right or wrong become fuzzy. 

The thing is that humans are born with biases, adopt a label or two and even some sort of stereotypes. We become hard wired with our opinions in all sorts of issues. The biggest discussion that hurts my heart the most is the biases based on gender and race. 

Based on our innate nature, we label people and interact according to the label we have attached to them. When a girl or boy child is born to a couple, she or he is nurtured based on societal gender norms. Selective colors and toys these children are made to associate with and a definition of their place in society is affixed, allowing for even more labels to be attached and stereotypes formed. 

Gender fluidity, on the other hand sets the stage for that child to grow up as an individual, a human being who can go down a path based on her or his innate qualities. When we take the labeling and as a result, stereotypes out, we are allowing a human being to be a good citizen of the world. That world citizen is then free and able to carve a path for her or his self on their, and ultimately, the human race’s success. 

Same thing applies to biases on Race. Seeing a woman in a headscarf, a person of a different skin tone or an individual with ethnic features leads to a mental block. Most of us do not attempt to look behind the curtain of whatever label we have stamped on them from face value. We have already made up our mind on that individual before even saying hello.  

Bringing it down to a more “ordinary” level, we apply labels to everybody we interact with. Seeing a woman at the mall wearing trendy clothes and high heels, we classify her as an upper-class snob. When we see a teenager with a hoody coming our way down the path in the neighborhood, we immediately cross the street. Or in the case of the woman who comes to clean your house or man who comes to mow your lawn, we form an opinion that she and he is uneducated, whereas they may be a Master’s degree holder in the country of their origin and have figured out that there’s more money in running their own business cleaning or mowing than in working for a company as an underpaid employee because of their inability to converse in the language of their adopted country.  To state the cliché, we are judging these books by their cover and labeling our biases accordingly. 

We, as a human race, need to scratch the surface, go beyond and meet eye to eye every individual at a human level. We need to empty our minds and become open to discovery. Allow our biases to recede and flow away as we introduce fluidity of an open mind. Instead of having heated discussion or arguing over whether men are better than women or vice versa, acknowledge that each gender is different and complimentary to each other. We are pieces of a large, grand design puzzle who fit together to make a whole. This mindset will help us take away the question of gender and race all together and allow an individual to be. Just Be.

Just Be.